I understand some people will try to scare you out of doing something to prevent you from getting hurt, but I hate when people and the world try to instill fear in you. People have always tried to instill fear in me, not because they did not want me to succeed, but because they did not want me to get hurt. For instance, when I wanted to pursue dance, so many people would tell me that it’s difficult to find a career in dance or it would be nearly impossible to recover from an injury if I were to get hurt. Not being able to have a stable income and possibly getting injured…fear. I would like to add that Misty Copeland fractured a bone in her back during rehearsal and look at her now; the first African American woman to be promoted to principal dancer in ABT’s 75-year history.
Dance did not work out for me because I fell into depression and I stopped practicing. Now to find a niche. In high school, I did very well in my science courses, and my teacher suggested I pursue the medical field. I started to do my research and was intrigued with all the things you could do in the medical field. It wasn’t until I dissected a pig in my anatomy class where I decided I wanted to be a surgeon.
I took intense science courses to get myself a head in school and was doing really well. It wasn’t until my second year in college where my lab professor made it her goal to break me down…and she did. While being in school I also worked at a boutique. I would have all my classes in the morning and then rush to work; an environment where your outfit had to be on point from head to toe and your hails and nails must always be perfect. I believe that twenty-four year old professor was jealous of me because the first day of class she called me out. “Listen, when you’re in the science field you were over sized t-shirts, mom jeans, and running sneakers. You don’t do your hair, nails, or even pick an outfit for yourself.” I knew she was speaking about me because no other student was dressed up to figure out mystery solubles and solvents. She approached me after class and commented on my tenacious attitude in class and superb grades. She then asked me what I wanted to do with my degree and I told her I wanted to be a doctor. That’s where she began to blabber about how medical school was competitive, expensive, and all the student loans I would have to take out. I told her I wanted to be a doctor to help people and she said, “Well look at Angelina Jolie. She never went to college, became an actress, and is now a huge philanthropist.” So then, I started to think that maybe it wasn’t worth it and I changed my major.
I feel like no matter what I pursued or wanted to pursue, someone always had something negative to say. Whether it was the incidents I mentioned, working in retail, opening up my own online store, or even saying I wantwork at McDonalds….someone always had to impose how hard it was going to be. They might as well say that everything in life is difficult and never pursue anything. Now that I’m business major concentrating in analytics, people are saying I’ll have to deal with a competitive environment, I’ll have to work over forty hours a week which been there done that, and I’ll have to possibly deal with men getting paid more than me. So now what? Change my ideas because there are possible, not guaranteed, obstacles I could encounter? No. Hell no.
The point is don’t allow people to instill fear in you. No matter what you pursue in life, you will encounter bumps in the road. The saying is true, if it were easy, everyone would do it. It’s the people who believed in themselves and overcame those obstacles that made it. So whatever you’re going after, go after it full throttle…fearlessly.